Dating a single dad book
That's what was running through my head when I walked up the aisle almost 18 years ago, anxious, teary and excited to take the next step in my life with the woman I loved.Then we had one, two, three children and somehow bringing tiny little people into the mix didn't make our relationship any easier, didn't help us find a common ground and get along smoothly.Despite also being a car-less, transit-using single parent who can’t remember the last time I had a regular weekly recreational activity not related to the eight-and-under set, I found myself marveling at this friend’s sacrifices.Then I found myself annoyed that I had slipped into such a typical line of thought.
A life together, a future as a team, and perhaps some little people added to the mix.Like going from tag-team wrestling to having to take on the other opponent solo.Worse, in a lot of situations, far from "having your back", your ex can be eagerly waiting to point out your failings, digging that knife in just a bit deeper, while telling the children "daddy has issues, but at least you have me." I think it's tougher on us men, however, because we aren't raised to nurture and be empathetic.Single fathers, on the other hand, were perceived by those surveyed as individuals in a challenging situation who had to worry about complications of solo parenting like paying child support, ﬁnding child-care, and balancing their dating life with raising kids.Not exactly the personal character flaws attributed to the moms!
“She even took the car, so he brings the kids to daycare on the bus. He’s lucky if he even gets to play basketball once a week.